Me: *doesnt connect emotionally or socially with my peers*
Adults: 😊🙏😊 Look at you!! 😊🙏😊🙏🙏 you’re so mature for your age 😊😊😊🙏🙏 Such an old soul!!! 😊🙏😊🙏😊😀😀O h m y g o o d n e s s 😀😊🙏 a truly G I F T E D child 😄😄🙏🙏😊🙏🙏
Me, now an adult: *has no idea how to navigate social relationships which are needed for things like jobs*
- Communication doesn’t work on bullies. Telling a bully they’re making you feel bad is the wrong way to go. They want to make you feel bad. That’s the point.
- being kind to a bully doesn’t always mean they’ll stop. Sometimes it means they’ll just use your kindness to manipulate you while still continuing to bully you.
- not every bully has a sympathetically tragic home life. Sometimes people are just mean. Sometimes people just get off on hurting others.
- on that note, a tough home life is a reason, not an excuse. You don’t have to put up with bullying because somebody’s life sucks, just like you don’t have to let someone mug you because they’re broke.
- in order to forgive someone, they have to apologize first. If your bully has not apologized to you, you do not owe them anything.
- getting bullied as a kid can still mess you up in adult life. Maybe kids grow out of being bullies, but the marks they left often don’t go away.
- there are ways to get people to stop bullying you, but they almost all involve being mean back.
- as long as parents keep raising shitty bullying kids, there will be bullies. No amount of assemblies and hand-drawn posters will fix the problem. It’s the parents’ fault.
-a lot of bullies dont think of themselves as bullies, either
- bullies do not bully you because they like you
- getting bullied as a kid can even mess you up as a teen
- ignoring does not work. it does not make them go away. it’s a lie told to make kids less “”problematic””
